Six Ways to Stay Sane When Life Gets Insane
Sometimes life gets crazy. That’s a fact. And, most often, we create this craziness for ourselves. The people in our lives. The relationships we maintain. The goals we’re chasing. The house we’re maintaining. The business we’ve built. This is all our doing.
And there’s nothing wrong with that. As humans, we need goals, ambitions, relationships and challenges in order to grow. However, sometimes, it all catches up to us at once. It’s in these moments that we often feel we start to unravel.
So, the question then becomes, how can we stay sane when life gets insane?
Unfortunately.. I don’t have ALL the answers for you. But I do have six. Six ways to help you stay sane when life gets insane.
Number One: Find your flow
In my past, I really struggled with overthinking and overanalyzing.
If you have this tendency (which I believe we all do to some degree) this can often be made worse in times of stress due to heightened anxiety.
Now, what many people don’t know is that (unless you have mastered mindfulness) it can be very difficult, if not impossible, to control our minds. Thoughts often enter without our permission. This is not the problem. The problem is what we do with those thoughts. Do you redirect your mind and focus on something else? Or do you ruminate?
HOWEVER, there is good news. There is one way I have found to stop negative or obsessive thoughts from entering my mind in the first place.
I fall into a state of flow.
What I mean by flow is, I do a creative task that I know I can get lost in. I find that feeling of “flow.” You know that feeling? When creativity is flowing through you and you are so focused on the task at hand that time passes without even realizing it.
I love using the state of flow to minimize stress and maintain a healthy mindset for a few reasons…
- One, it brings you into a state of calm and energizes you. Both at the same time. And both necessary in time and task management.
- Two, it means you are creating something. And the act of creating something is an accomplishment in itself.
- Three, it brings you into the present moment and therefore helps you practice the art of mindfulness.
Number Two: Pay attention to your energy levels
When you are engaging with certain people or doing certain things, ask yourself, are they draining my energy or fueling it?
I got this idea from Mel Robbin’s book, Take Control of Your Life. In Mel’s book she references your inner compass. She states how we all have an inner compass we must pay attention to. When we are in certain situations we must consider if it’s pushing us forward (north) or backwards (south). We then should adjust the decisions we make in our lives based on what our inner compass is telling us.
This is especially important during times of stress because we want to minimize our energy drains.
Number Three: Listen to audible books or podcasts that teach you new concepts and inspire you to be better
I go by the belief that the wisdom or advice I need to hear will be provided to me when I am ready to hear it.
Now, I know this is a more “trust the universe” type of approach, and you might not be into that kind of thing. So, if that’s the case, simply try listening to learn!
As humans, we feel our best when we are learning and growing. It makes us feel empowered. And when we feel empowered, we are in a more positive and steady state of mind. Leaving us better able to handle the chaotic world around us.
Number Four: Think less do more
If you are trying to make a drastic change, achieve a monumental goal or just manage a crazy life, imagine the overall task itself is a brick building.
How will you ever get this damn thing built? By focusing on one single brick at a time.
Number Five: Do ALL the things – or at least most – that you know you should be doing
Often, when life gets stressful (good or bad) we let the routines and habits slip that we know we should be doing. Have a morning routine? Nighttime routine? Daily exercise/nutrition plan? When life gets crazy, these routines can keep us feeling sane. Don’t toss them out the window!
Need help remembering and/or keeping track of these “must do” items for your optimal health? Copy my approach. In my office I have a list of my “daily health habits.” I mark them off as the day goes by, and (once completed) I make a check mark on my monthly calendar.
Marking my calendar helps me remember that I won’t be perfect everyday. As a recovering perfectionist, I don’t hold myself to unreasonable standards. Instead, it helps me to simply feel proud to keep track of all the days that I do “do-all-the-things.”
Number Six: Live your life
This one might sound crazy – but what’s even crazier is this really happens! Often, when people get too much on their plate they grind, grind, grind, ALL day in order to get it done – and when they finally look away from their own stuff for two seconds – they day is done! Don’t let this happen to you. Be diligent about planning your time and plan in time to live.
What I mean by this is the basic actions of living that you need to pause and enjoy. Go on a walk and embrace your surroundings. Cook dinner and really just simply cook. Sounds crazy right? Take a bath and tune out and just allow your body to soak and melt away for a moment. These all sound counterproductive but they are actually not. We get more done when we have a clear and rested mind. And these types of activities fall into spiritual, emotional, physical and mental rest. Make sure you LIVE YOUR DAY and don’t just work it away. The busy busy busy only leaves you more flustered and less able to be effective and efficient.
One last thing to mention:
What works for me might not always work for you. That’s why personalized coaching is so crucial! Sometimes we need to really dig into our own personal world to figure out what we want, what we need, and what works best for us.
That being said, I do truly hope these help. Please please please don’t hesitate to reach out with questions or comments. I’m always here to help.
Stay sane my friends!
Written just for you by yours truly, Life Coach Shay. A self-proclaimed master of living a low stress yet highly ambitious life.
Books referenced: Mel Robbins Take Control of Your Life: How to Silence Fear and Win the Mental Game https://amzn.to/2LCzFqW